With the beginning of 2018 approaching quickly, it has me reeling a little bit at how fast this year has gone by. It also took me aback a little bit as I begin seeing posts about New Year’s resolutions, and how so many people had already set goals. As I skimmed over resolutions I felt a hint of excitement and also a little bit of apprehension.
I remember a time growing up whenever I used to set resolutions for myself based off of what other people wanted from me. I was easily influenced and aimed to please everyone, everyone except for myself. My resolutions and what I wanted to change could have been from my parents or from my coworkers and it was a constant battle.
It was only around four years ago when I began to love and accept myself for who I truly am. I’m a work in progress every day, and sometimes self-acceptance doesn’t come easily but it’s a truly freeing feeling when you can embrace yourself for who you are.
I hope that everyone in life is able to accept themselves because its vital for overall happiness.
Please know that you can work on yourself every day, and no matter how broken you feel you are resilient.
Don’t let other’s expectations of you define you.
Shape yourself from the clay that is you and harden in the heat of opposition. Clay can crack and chip but it can also be repaired. You can mold yourself and evolve every single day if you choose to do so.
It was also around this time when I began to realize that if I spent my whole life constantly pleasing others that I would never gain anything. I wasn’t nourishing myself, and it left me exhausted. I was so burnt out on tending the gardens of others dreams that I didn’t even know who I was anymore. I didn’t know what I wanted out of life anymore and I felt useless. I’ve always gone against the grain of what society deemed “normal”, but what I didn’t realize is that its undertones were leaking into me.
This year while you’re making your resolutions please ask yourself: if what you want to attain is for yourself or for others around you.
If it’s not something that you truly want to do, I promise its alright to say no. Its okay to say no, and cut the tie of guilt that may follow when you reject the idea. Its also perfectly fine to only set small goals, because there’s no such thing as an insignificant goal.
Let this new year and all the promises it holds spark and inspire you and your spirit. Happy New Years, everyone!