As a survivor of domestic violence and sexual assault self-love and awareness can seem so hard. When everything you’ve been taught matters is taken from you, you can feel lost. Alone. It doesn’t have to be this way, yet we hold on to the emotional and energetic scars that can haunt the damaged mind. In my own experience: I’ve been away from my abuser for more than a year, but everyday I feel worthless. I feel bogged down by my past.
With meditation and yoga these feelings can subside, for a brief time, yet they always return. I always go back to that mindset of, “I am unworthy.” I feel we all can relate to that, as we all have suffered in some form another. We’ve internalized negative experiences and choose to look ahead rather than cope with what happened. The most useful advice I can give to you is to release the attachment and need for misery and suffering. Find a support system whom sees the Light inside of you and honors It. The best support comes from within.
Be grateful for your life, for your experiences and choose to see the beauty and love in the world. With our thoughts we can change our reality. When you witness a negative thought go by, immediately replace that thought with a healthy, positive one.
Example: I open my phone and see these women whom look 100x better than I do, however this a false evaluation. We are all created to be unique, we are puzzle pieces that when put together and appreciated can create a beautiful image. When I notice the negative thoughts of comparison, I tell myself, ” You are enough, you are you. God created you for a reason and although you don’t look like the women with 100,000 likes: You are worthy. You are beautiful and you deserve to be happy.”
Conscious awareness of the negative thoughts that plague the mind is the first step to restructuring the brain. If something makes you feel less than, stop putting yourself in that situation. Choose to love yourself and respect yourself enough to be gentle and patient, one day I will be able to open my Instagram and appreciate the beauty I see fill my screen: That day is not today, and that’s fine. It is what it is– an ancient sanskrit saying that every yogi has heard at least one time in their life. So remember, it is what it is, and if you wish to change something, start with your mind.