“Don’t flirt, have sex, or engage in emotional affairs with your friends significant others. This shouldn’t need to be said, but it needs to be said. That significant other is an asshole, and you don’t want to be involved with used goods. If you want to be with an asshole, get a fresh asshole of your very own. They are abundant.” -Roxanne Gay, Bed Feminist: How to be friends With Another Woman
Someone needs to write about it, single women. Not necessarily all single women, but a select group of them who are highly self-centered, in a negative way. I’ll put it in perspective, like the way a bulldozer would have on a glass house, had the gas pedal gotten stuck. A specific type of woman who does not care about other women. They think, feel, desire, the need to pursue their own personal sexual agenda despite who might get hurt. In doing so, whoever they need to get attention from, they will fill a damn sure way.
Sometimes it’s married men.
It’s a proven scientific fact that for some biological reason a single woman’s dying eggs are screaming at them, with loads of hormones, to hurry up and pick a mate! Time is running out!
It’s not rocket science, we have Exhibit A: Married man is already “settled” and has his well paying career aligned, decent car, cute kids, oh he’s such a good Dad and a happy life.
Well, except for one thing. His wife is run down and tired so she’s not putting out. Shit, she hardly puts on make up or a dress anymore.
Ahhh cue horny, playful, single woman with no kids… or pets! Just all that time for her gym membership and solo movie nights.
Pathologically, this set-up is exactly what she wants (or what her little baby uterine eggs want) so she pursues it because it seems harmless at first. A game, for the man, who also has a scientifically driven need to spread his seed as far as he can. At last, the “just friends” affair is born and here we have the evolution of what it means to be “single”. Doing whatever the fuck you want, including home wrecking.
Great, so now that you had your fun and nearly ruined a marriage. Go lock down your own man, who is not married. There are literally 7 billion plus people on this beautiful Earth for you to go frolic with.
These women, who are okay with continuing a flirtatious relationship with a man, in a known relationship, are really for lack of a better word, pathetic. Usually this relationship exists, as sad as it is, with or without the blessing of the wife and behind her back.
Single woman, do you think you are the hero? You are not doing anyone a favor.
If the man has any dignity, he would leave his wife and family to pursue either “The Bachelor Life” or his mistress. Chances are, he doesn’t want to put the work in with YOU like he already has with his WIFE. You are the fling, the stupid mistake, the bump in the road.
Pick yourself back up, become the woman a man would actually want to give a ring to. If you truly do not want to be in a relationship, don’t go ruin other people’s relationships that they have put work into. Just don’t go there!Published in